To Pursue On Purpose

We knew that our blog, Everything With A {PURPOSE}, would be only that, the point is to share only when you have something to share and not for the sake of sharing just because. So, we've taken a hiatus for the last two months after writing Leave Your Suitcase At The Door. It was like I didn't have anything else to say. Period. There is no way to be sure how many times I've read it over and over again, almost surprised at myself and at how perfectly written it is. It exactly reveals that day to a T. I poured my soul out into that blog and I haven't had anything else anywhere near as profound to say since. And that's ok.
It was a time to stop talking and do a lot of listening, observing, watching. Oh, the treasures this has brought and the amazing amount of epiphanies that come at a time when you're taking in information with very little output. Fascinating how quickly you reconnect with your intuition, when you're this inquisitive and paying attention for the answers.
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It was important to quiet all of the noise for a while. Writing is impossible when you're in this kind of transition. So we did a lot of reading, writing in a journal and something we find so helpful that we encourage all people to really do - talk it all through with your spouse and those closest to you. I sat on my mat a lot. I meditated a lot. We read and we watched a lot of interviews with people who inspired us and even watched a few flicks.
One of those flicks Colin and I were watching was 'Pursuit of Happyness' with Will Smith. Colin had seen it before but not for years and I hadn't seen it at all. We want to share our perspective of the whole concept.

Everyone suffers the exact same way, it's just different.

We all suffer. You're not special. I'm not special. We're not special. Suffering is the human condition and no one gets to skip pain, or pleasure, for that matter. It's a fundamental part of humanness. It's why we strive to do and be better humans - which is why this movie is so appropriately named. Happiness is not ever something you can weigh, hold, shackle or chain. You are only ever in the pursuit of it.
Think of emotions the same way. Nothing lasts forever - emotions all end. Pleasure, pain, sorrow, delight, and even laughter. We live somewhere in between happy and sad most of the time with a pendulum that swings sometimes to the far right and sometimes to the far left.

Nothing anyone does is because of you

Everything anyone ever does is because of them. This is one of the hardest lessons I have had to face yet, understanding that I am completely in control of myself - because for many years I have felt out of control. You can't hone in that control until you realize that YOU have it. Not one single other person is to blame for your failures, nor are they to blame for your successes.
You know when you read something so profound and you think, damn! That was so obvious! That's because it is completely obvious and you've heard the thing time and time again but maybe you weren't ready to hear it.
In the movie, Christopher asks his dad, "Did mommy leave because of me?", to which his dad responds, "No! Mommy didn't leave because of you. Mommy left because of mommy'.
This really was a layered lesson and one that we have spent many a night lately chatting about, usually propped up in bed with a glass of wine as we wind down - we're not those normal humans who do that in the living room. Colin especially just loves to be in our bedroom space. So we talk a lot about understanding that our actions and thoughts are all chosen by us. Reactions - still us. Someone calls you a bitch and you immediately get mad? You chose to give them power over who you actually think you are. Are you a bitch? Right? Does it even matter if you are or if you aren't? The answer is no.
What if you go one step further. Our emotional pain attached to another human being is our own doing and finally realizing that you're in control of this - even though initially it sounds like complete madness - I know. If Tonia continually allowed herself to grieve the loss of a mother, or more accurately, whatever she felt like a mother ought to be, that is her choice entirely and no one else can make her continue to grieve this. The actions causing the pain aren't there anymore. Pain is actually gone now, but the suffering isn't IF she chooses not to let it go.
Why?

We haven't learned the lesson of the pursuit of happyness yet.

Today, while driving around, a thought occurred. The only moment I am living in is now and there is no immediate threat, no pain, no joy. Contentment is here in this moment now as you read through this blog. Contentment is knowing that what happened isn't happening anymore and it's not happening again. The moment, the person, the pain, pleasure, grief... it's been gone for a long time and it's time to close the door and keep on going. Ready to pursue the next moment of life - happiness and sadness in their varying degrees must ebb and flow and happen as we move through life. That's it - as simple as that.
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You don't need a mother, a father, a brother, a sister, a lover, a husband, a wife, a dog, a preacher, a mantra, a yoga pose. We were blaming something else for our 'un' happiness, because we're really busy believing that we can hold happiness in our hands and one day arrive 'there' and forevermore live in this bliss.
Nope.
You're already there in every moment that you forgive, move on, take a step forward, read a book, kiss your spouse, wash your hair, sing to one of your favourite songs, drink your favourite glass of wine with the perfect cheese pairing, float in the lake, smell the scent of your favourite essential oil diffusing as you write in your favourite blog.
 

 
There's been a lot of reflection happening in our home. We say, "I'm so proud of you" to one another, like, a LOT right now. There's a spiritual growth spirt happening here and it's why we've been so quiet. We're not saying anything that someone else has already said - we're just putting it out there in a someone-already-said-it-and-we're-just-repeating-it-in-our-own-words kinda way.
Try spending some time in contentment appreciating the pendulum, knowing that everything, including emotion, is temporary. We'll all enjoy the pursuit much better this way.
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With Purpose,
T & C

Shes Savvy

This is not our regularly scheduled blog post. Folks, Tonia here to bring some of the most amazing announcements to our business page and here on the blog. If you have followed our page on Facebook or Instagram, you would know that we are super passionate about clean products - and even more passionate about making our own so that we can be sure they are 100% premium quality AND minimal ingredients. That's my whole shtick - if I can, I'll make a product with 4 or less ingredients if I'm able to.
Well, there's this little makeup line founded by a woman we look up to and respect who saw a need that wasn't being met. What do we want in a clean beauty product?
We want non-toxic, minimal ingredient (when possible) and we didn't want beauty at the sacrifice or expense of our health. Now our needs are being met and all of this is available to all of us - and YOU! Gluten free, vegan friendly (with the exception of the lipstick as it contains beeswax), completely plant & mineral based make-up!
We're going to break this down now, so without further ado!
Introducing.....

Savvy Minerals

This product was originally formulated two and a half years ago because there was a need to be filled for women who wanted to wear make up but didn't want to compromise their health. Now, you don't have to! Email us for information on how to order your own Savvy Minerals, now available in Canada!
Here's my before & after full Savvy Minerals face! I'm in love.

Foundation

  • Vegan Friendly
  • Gluten Free
  • Diminishes the appearance of imperfections and blemishes
  • Minimizes pore appearance
  • Brightens Complexion
  • Absorbs excess oils
  • Long lasting, all day wear
  • Ideal for sensitive skin
  • Mineral based
  • Formulated without bismuth, talc, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals or synthetic fragrances
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Cool tones 

For blue veins, more pink skin undertones. (Tip: Take a look at the inside of your wrists, what colour do your veins look?)
SavvyMineralsWarmFoundationPoweder

Warm tones

For green veins, more yellow skin undertones. (Tip: If you're not sure which number to choose, start with 2. You can always add #1 if it's too dark or add #3 if it's too light.)
And dark tones, too.
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Get out your misting spray (see below) onto your foundation brush, then your foundation minerals and apply. This is a buildable formula, which means you can add on if you would like to have more coverage.
Ingredients:
  • Mica
  • Boron nitride
  • Lauroyl lysine
  • Populus tremuloides bark extract
  • Kaolin clay
  • Silica
(The May Contain section indicates the potential natural colours for each different product)
May contain: Mica (CI 77019), Titanium dioxide (CI 77891), Manganese violet (CI 77742), Iron oxides (CI 77491), Iron oxides (CI 77492), Iron oxides (CI77499)
Wholesale pricing: $55.50 CAD

Lipstick

  • Natural-looking shades
  • Medium coverage, adds shine
  • Glides on smoothly
  • Creamy texture, moisturizes
  • Makes lips appear fuller
  • Made with natural ingredients
  • Not tested on animals
  • formulated without parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, bismuth, talc, synthetic fragrances or colourants
Four shades of lipstick available:
  1. Daydream
  2. On A Whim
  3. Uptown Girl
  4. Wish
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Ingredients:
  • Castor seed oil
  • Sweet almond oil
  • Candelilla wax
  • Beeswax
  • Tocopheryl
May contain: Titanium dioxide (CI 77891), Iron oxides, Manganese violet, Mica, Tin Oxide
Wholesale Pricing: $28.50 CAD

Lip Gloss

  • Sheer to medium coverage
  • Helps lips appear more full
  • Moisturizes and softens lips
  • Adds shine
  • Made with natural ingredients
  • Not tested on animals
  • No talc, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, synthetic fragrances or synthetic colourants
Two shades of lip gloss available:
  1. Abundant
  2. Embrace
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Ingredients:
  • Castor oil
  • Oleic/linoleic/polyglycerides
  • Beeswax
  • Polyhydroxystearic Acid
  • Olive oil
  • Silica
  • Sunflower seed oil
  • Peppermint essential oil
  • Jojoba esters
  • Tocopheryl acetate
  • Tocopherol
May Contain: Mica (CI 77019), Titanium dioxide (CI 77891), Iron oxides (CI 77491), Manganese violet (CI 77742)
Wholesale pricing: $34.50 CAD

Blush

  • Gives cheeks a perfect flush
  • promotes radiance and healthy glow
  • build-able colour, all day wear
  • enhances natural beauty
  • ideal for sensitive skin
  • mineral based ingredients
  • Vegan friendly
  • Not tested on animals
  • formulated without parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, bismuth, talc or synthetic fragrances
Three shades of blush available:
  1. I Do Believe You're Blushin'
  2. Passionate
  3. Smashing
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Ingredients:
  • Mica
  • Populus tremuloides bark extract
  • Kaolin clay
May contain: Mica (CI 77019), Titanium dioxide (CI 77891), Manganese violet (CI 77742), Iron oxides (CI 77491), Iron oxides (CI 77492), Iron oxides (77499), Ultramarines (CI 77007)
Wholesale pricing: $35.00 CAD

Bronzer

  • looks shimmery but goes on the skin gives you a nice even glow
  • gives skin a healthy and sun-kissed glow
  • fantastic for contouring
  • buildable colour
  • long lasting all day wear
  • ideal for sensitive skin
  • make with mineral based ingredients
  • vegan friendly
  • not tested on animals
  • formulated without talc, bismuth, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals or synthetic fragrances
Two shades of bronzer available:
  1. Summer Loved
  2. Crowned All Over
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Ingredients:
  • Micas (Sericite)
  • Populus tremuloides bark extract
May contain: Mica (CI 77019), Titanium dioxide (CI 77891) Iron oxides (CI 77491), Iron oxides (CI 77492), Iron oxides (CI 77499)
Wholesale Pricing: $35.00 CAD

Eyeshadow

  • Offers rich shades with high payoff and buildable colour
  • Build-able colour
  • Blends really well
  • Long lasting for all day wearability
  • Enhances natural beauty
  • Ideal for sensitive skin
  • Mineral based ingredients
  • Formulated without parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, bismuth, talc and synthetic fragrances
Eight shades of eyeshadow available:
  1. Best Kept Secret
  2. Crushin'
  3. Determined
  4. Diffused
  5. Residual
  6. Spoiled
  7. Unscripted
  8. Wanderlust (can also be used as a highlighter for contouring!)
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Ingredients:
  • Micas
  • Populus tremuloides bark extract
  • Tin oxide
May contain: Mica (CI 77019), Titanium dioxide (CI 77891), Iron oxides (CI 77491), Iron oxides (CI 77492), Iron oxides (CI 77499), Ultramarine (CI 77007)

Eyeliner

Jet Setter

  • High colour payoff
  • Buildable colour that blends well to create different looks
  • Enhances natural beauty
  • Long lasting for all day wearability
  • Ideal for sensitive skin
  • Made with mineral based ingredients
  • Vegan friendly
  • Not tested on animals
  • Formulated without talc, bismuth, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals or synthetic fragrances
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Use dry as an eyeliner or wet an angled brush for a more liquid eyeliner finish! Use the Jet Setter for both eyeliner or for a smokey eyeshadow!  Talk about bang for your buck when purchasing mineral make up this universal!
Ingredients:
  • Micas
  • Populus tremuloides bark extract, Kaolin clay
May contain: Iron oxides (CI 77499), Mica (CI 77019), Titanium Dioxide (CI 77891)
Wholesale pricing: $19.75 CAD

Multi-Tasker

This universal and multi-dimensional rich brown pigment is amazing for shadow, liner and as a brow filler! Talk about an incredibly economical 3-in-1 product made with 2 ingredients + natural colourant! This will be making it's way to my make-up drawer immediately and will be something I add to my Essential Rewards orders on the regular!
  • Richly pigmented (brown)
  • Buildable colour that blends beautifully to create different looks
  • Emphasizes your natural beauty with a variety of looks
  • Long lasting for all day wearability
  • Ideal for sensitive skin
  • All Mineral based ingredients
  • Vegan friendly
  • Not tested on animals
  • Formulated without talc, bismuth, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals or synthetic fragrances
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Wholesale pricing: $26.00 CAD
Ingredients:
  • Micas
  • Populus tremuloides bark extract
May contain: Iron oxide (CI 77491), Iron oxide (CI77492). Iron Oxide (CI 77499), Titanium dioxide (CI 77891)

Misting Spray

  • Provides more control with mineral powder make up application
  • Nourishes the skin with pure essential oils
  • Soothes and refreshes skin
  • Provides an aroma that inspires confidence
  • Made with 100% naturally derived, plant based ingredients
  • Vegan friendly
  • Formulated without alcohol, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, synthetic fragrances or synthetic colourants
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Ingredients:

  • Water
  • Glycerin (vegetable)
  • Aloe Vera leaf juice
  • Potassium sorbate
  • Sodium levulinate
  • Sodium anisate
  • Trace mineral complex
  • Geranium essential oil
  • Bergamot essential oil (Furocoumarin-free)
  • Balsam Copaiba essential oil
  • Cedarwood essential oil
  • Black Spruce essential oil
  • Orange essential oil
  • Lavender essential oil
  • Lime essential oil
  • Vanilla fruit extract
  • Sage essential oil
  • Ocotea essential oil
  • Rose essential oil
Wholesale pricing: $18.75 CAD
Spritz your make up brush a few times and apply your choice of foundation, eyeliner or eyeshadow! This mist is a great setter for after your application as well. Can't wait to smell mine once it arrives, especially since it has some of my favourite smelling essential oils, like Black Spruce, Copaiba, Bergamot and Sage as well as vanilla fruit extract!
Now, my only question for you is, how will you NOT buy all of these incredible products

Go big or go home?

If you bought yourself a foundation, blush, bronzer, eyeshadow, eyeliner, Multi Tasker for brows, a lipstick, a lip gloss and the Mister Spray you'd be looking at an amazing and complete set for under $272.25 CAD!
This is an amazing company that we are all going to be so happy to have in our homes! Ask us how you can get on board with making the switch!
With Purpose,
Tonia

Little Seedlings

What an adorable way to keep your little ones healthy with minimal ingredient and completely toxin-free products. You know that is our absolute favorite topic to talk about and so for all of you moms or moms to be out there, we have some really awesome products we want to review for you!
The seedlings line is completely free of all synthetic and toxic ingredients. All of their products are formulated without alcohol, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, animal-derived ingredients, synthetic preservatives, synthetic fragrances or synthetic dyes.

Seedlings Baby Line

Baby Lotion

This gentle, non-greasy moisturizer is completly, 100% plant-based and formulated without any synthetic or toxic ingredients. All new or soon to be moms want the best possible products to keep their babies safe from harm, and this Seedlings line does not disappoint.
Ingredients:
  • Water
  • Caprylic/capric triglyceride
  • Glycerin
  • Glyceryl caprylate
  • Xanthan gum
  • Cellulose gum
  • Apple fruit extract
  • Lavender essential oil
  • Glyceryl undecylenate
  • Murumuru seed butter
  • Mango seed butter
  • Cocoa seed butter
  • Safflower seed butter
  • Coriander essential oil
  • Bergamot essential oil (Furocourmarin free)
  • Marigold flower extract
  • Achiote seed extract
  • Ylang Ylang essential oil
  • Geranium essential oil
  • Tocopheryl acetate
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Wholesale pricing: $19.75 USD

Baby Oil

This oil is formulated with all plant based ingredients and specifically made without the use of mineral oils. All dilutions are made with your baby’s delicate skin in mind and the Seedling’s baby oil is also vegan friendly. This oil is meant to help soothe and calm your little one before bed time to help promote a restful sleep. It’s soft, gentle, nourishing, dermatologist tested and hypoallergenic.
Ingredients:
  • Caprylic/capric triglyceride
  • Apricot kernel oil
  • Safflower seed oil
  • Prickly pear seed oil
  • Mixed tocopherols
  • Lavender essential oil
  • Coriander essential oil
  • Bergamot essential oil (Furocourmarin free)
  • Ylang Ylang essential oil
  • Geranium essential oil
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Wholesale Pricing: $24.25 USD

Baby Wash

You’ll never have to worry about what’s in your baby shampoo and body wash ever again, is tear free and only very lightly scented with pure essential oils, properly diluted and formulated for your baby’s delicate skin. Of course, derived from only 100% plant based ingredients & vegan friendly, the Seedlings Baby Wash is sulphate-free, rinses clean without over-drying and makes those tangles very easy to come through!
Ingredients:
  • Water
  • Sodium laurylglucosides hydroxypropylsulfonate
  • Glycerin
  • Decyl glucoside
  • Xanthan gum
  • Sodium chloride
  • Glyceryl caprylate
  • Glyceryl undecylenate
  • Lavender essential oil
  • Marigold flower extract
  • Eyebright extract
  • Caprylic/capric triglyceride
  • Coriander essential oil
  • Bergamot essential oil (Furocourmarin free)
  • Ylang Ylang essential oil
  • Geranium essential oil
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 Wholesale pricing: $20.75 USD

Baby Wipes

These baby wipes are so gentle and can absolutely double as a gentle make up remover, ladies. They are truly soft, thick and versatile. The perfect formulation to ensure that your baby’s skin is moisturized with each use while providing and thorough cleansing. Only the most gentle and beneficial botanicals were used in these Seedlings Baby Wipes and of course, they are formulated only with 100% plant derived ingredients, making them vegan friendly and absolutely safe for your baby’s delicate skin.
Ingredients:
  • Water
  • Glycerin
  • Phenethyl alcohol
  • Apple fruit extract
  • Soapberry fruit extract
  • lavender essential oil
  • Marigold flower extract
  • Witch Hazel extract
  • Caprylic/capric triglyceride
  • Coriander
  • Aloe vera
  • Bergamot essential oil (Furocourmarin free)
  • Ylang Ylang essential oil
  • Geranium essential oil
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 Wholesale pricing: $11.75 USD

Baby Diaper Rash Cream

This is a product that moms really want to be sure is safe, gentle and completely non-toxic for their baby’s bottoms. Diaper rash is a common concern and why we are especially happy to be referring a product from this Seedlings line that offers worry free protection from all plant based ingredients and is dermatologist tested and hypoallergenic. This cream helps to relieve and prevent diaper rash and also reduces the severity of the rash when applied at the first sign of redness on your little one’s bum. The Seedlings diaper rash cream acts as a barrier to irritants, which is how it helps to prevent the diaper rash from happening in the first place. Poor babies bottoms!
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Wholesale pricing: $27.25 USD
The seedlings line offers something all moms are looking for when it comes to their wee ones. Knowing that all products are completely free of toxic and synthetic free chemicals is enough to feel confident in this line, in addition to the completely plant based and vegan friendly ingredients. There is an amazing amount of confidence we will always have referring moms to these products and even purchasing any of the Seedlings products for gifts to our mom friends!
For years we have been talking about the importance of removing toxic chemicals from your products. Your baby’s skin is even more absorbent and sensitive than ours is, and it’s up to us to choose the best quality products to keep our babies healthy! This includes personal care products that we use on our baby’s skin.
This is truly wonderful news! To order your Seedlings Line, connect with us! If you are in Canada, ask us how to pre-order for the release in July of these brand new products or in the USA, how you can order today.
With Purpose,
Tonia & Colin

 

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5 REASONS TO GO INTO BUSINESS WITH YOUR SPOUSE

After being in business together for nearly two and a half years, I think it’s safe to say that we can offer some solid advice about working with your spouse full and part time. You’ll no doubt have different working styles and require different things in your space in order to be creative and productive. Quirks come out that you did not even know about your honey, and some of them will drive you absolutely mad. Sometimes, every once in a super blue blood moon (which is apparently happening January 31st for the first time in 150 years!), they even do something super cute that makes you fall in love with them. Sometimes. Rare, but be optimistic.

Colin loves to listen to music and, well, I need it to be super quiet when I am writing – which I am typically doing most of the time. We had to find a balance that worked well for both of us to be working from home, 100% of the time without disturbing the other all day long. But this post isn’t about the petty little annoyances that were truly few and far between…

Working alongside your spouse in business is a gift. In the last two and a half years we have learned so much about ourselves, about each other and about how to seamlessly stand beside one another to truly be the best versions of ourselves as possible. We’re better humans, better life partners and much better business partners because we embraced this incredible opportunity. Here are the top five amazing reasons to go into business with your spouse.

#1 – You get to celebrate every success with your significant other

Being a part of the ins and outs of your business venture together means not only can you anticipate a successful period, you can also fully celebrate it together. You don’t have to go home and talk to your partner about people they don’t know and challenges that you faced with other strangers while trying to portray how really cool this time is. You were both in the trenches, you both know the battles fought and won. You both know the lengths everyone went to. You’ll celebrate even more because of it.

Celebrating what you have accomplished together as a husband and wife team (or a boyfriend and girlfriend team, or a wife and wife team, or a partner and partner team, etc) is powerful for a couple. It is empowering, sexy, exhilarating, triumphant and it brings you even closer together as friends, confidants and life partners. A huge step forward in your business is always a huge step forward together in all ways. Working hard together in business always translates to establishing a closer, more resilient bond in your marriage.

Buhleee dat!

#2 – Support one another through obstacles and challenges

It can be difficult to support your partner through work issues when you’re not really a part of, or understand, all of the dynamics involved. Being business partners allows you the opportunity to really fully see the whole spectrum. Supporting your partner during the more strenuous times is much easier because you’re present, you know your partner well and you can see their perspective, and often that of others. You are just as invested in the success of your business as your partner is and the dedication you have to ensuring that the obstacles and challenges are met with determination will only mean you’ll get through it together, better than you would on your own.

Having your own business can be pretty tricky sometimes, and so can marriage. We’re not here to promote perfection, but a more positive portrayal of what happy marriage life can and often does look like. If you can learn to reach for one another’s hand and march on no matter what, neither of you will accept anything less. There is nothing that you can not face.

#3 – Grow together as a team

You won’t ever wake up one day and realize that you have done all of this growing and your partner is not in the same place as you have found yourself. Or worse, that you both did so much growing but unfortunately in completely opposite directions. You hear about this often in failed marriages, and in the business world. When you are both working towards the same goals and the business is dependent on your cohesive partnership, well shit! You gotta be the best damn duo out there. And let me tell you something, if you make your marriage and your business THE priority, your marriage and your business will both be successful. There is no other option.

#4 – Together you bring entirely different skillsets and perspectives.

You and your partner see the world differently, no matter the similarity in goals and passions. You compliment each other, but you differ in likes and dislikes, you connect with people on different levels and opposite topics. One of you has more patience, another has a much better eye for details. This is the most brilliant aspect of married folk getting into business together. You don’t have to compete, because you complete each other in these ways. It’s why you were attracted to one another in the first place. You are a good match, the puzzle pieces fit. You compliment one another. Of course if this is true in marriage it would be true in the workplace, too.

Like all good things, this will take work, effort, communication, love and compassion.

#5 – Your partner knows you best

Even when you don’t recognize it, your partner will know when it’s time to step in and give you a break. And also force you to take one when you just don’t have that off switch they keep telling you about. Flip what? What switch? Am I right?

Your partner knows your greatest talents and your limitations and is always willing to meet you, help you, encourage you. How can this not be a huge positive in your business? This is an amazing opportunity to support each others’ qualities and learn new skills together. What’s amazing about this last point is that you have the opportunity to truly become better people, developing new skills and new perspectives together every single day.

Growing a business together is one of the most amazing adventures we have been on together yet. We ebb and flow, we lean on one another, sometimes we surprise each other and sometimes you miscommunicate, too. You learn to use these happenstances as tools, rather than fuel for an argument. You have constructive conversations instead of screaming matches. You learn much more effective communication skills. You can feel each other’s next move before it is made.

Marriage & Partnership

There are days when we drive each other into the madness, this blog isn’t all rainbows and puppies. However, we have grown light years from where we would have been without the expectations put on us because we chose to join together also in becoming leaders of a team of people who depend on us. Our network marketing business might just be the very best thing we could have done for our marriage, our future and, ultimately, our retirement.

We’re still so young in both aspects of marriage and business partnership, really. Today we have been together for 6 years and 4 months, married 2 years and 5 months. Our road has not always been easy but we have most certainly come to understand, like Colin’s Dad has told us,

“You two can not be apart! Nothing good happens when you’re away from each other”.    – Colin McArthur Senior

I can’t imagine this journey without Colin because there is no one I’d rather tackle everything in this life with. We get to experience quite literally everything together and neither of us would have it any other way.

With Purpose,

T

TEN PRODUCTS TO KEEP YOUR NEWBORN COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY

It seems like years since we’ve been able to sit down and write a blog, connecting with our community again. So much has happened and it would take hundreds of blogs to catch you all up, so let’s start here.

We are parents!

I know.

We started dozens of posts to share so much from our pregnancy all the way until the birth of our child but life over the last 12 months has been a whirlwind, a time warp and a really beautiful but challenging time. All of those posts will be written, our birth story will be shared, but for now, we are sharing something really important.

Our sweet daughter, Macy J, was six weeks old when we started this blog post and in celebration of her first six weeks in our lives earth side we felt compelled to share a list of the most important baby items we have so valued in these first  weeks. Bringing home a newborn baby for the first time is life changing and with that transition there are so many things that can make your baby’s (and your life) more comfortable and nurturing.

 

Here was my headspace when I considered the items purchased below:

  •  How can I help to make my baby’s transition from womb to our home as smooth as possible?
  •  What are some ways I can help my newborn to be comfortable and happy?
  •  How can I support my baby during the fourth trimester?
  •  What products can I use that are safe for my baby?

 

Of course, there were many comforts we offered our newborn and you’ll find the same to be true about yours as well. We felt the few we chose in the list below were the most important for us and we want to tell you why. Hopefully from our experiences you can make your own top list of newborn must haves and if you do, we’d love to hear about them!

Here we go! In no particular order:

 

4 Moms Mamaroo 4 and Infant Insert

This was our first major purchase – in fact, Macy’s grandparents ended up asking if they could purchase this amazing swing system for her! We found one barely used and in amazing condition on Facebook marketplace for less than half the price of a brand new one. We loved the idea of helping to reuse and recycle as well.

Parents and parents-to-be, this resource is invaluable for everything kiddo related so definitely look into Facebook Marketplace and give it a solid go. I can’t tell you how many hundreds and thousands of dollars we have saved for everything from Macy’s Mamaroo to clothes to dressers and more.

OK, back to the swing.

Think about your movements when you’re pregnant. Most swings move forwards and back and that’s about it. When I considered my own movements I found I always swayed side to side, never forward and back. I couldn’t make sense of how a forward and back motion would be comforting to my newborn so we dove in. The Mamaroo 4 has five different motions and five different speeds and also had a noise machine function! Oh, and for your convenience, Mamaroo also has a handy little app so you can control the whole thing right from your phone. We tried, both you and your spouse can control the same Mamaroo on your own respective apps on your own respective phones. Bonus. You know how some apps only let you have one registrant? Not Mamaroo!

For buying brand new, here is just one example of where you can find them (and you can choose your colour, too:

The Swing:

https://well.ca/products/4moms-mamaroo-40-infant-seat_138186.html

The Newborn Insert:

https://well.ca/products/4moms-reversible-newborn-insert_107994.html

Don’t forget to check out your local Facebook marketplace to save yourself some money if you’re being frugal or really splurging on other items. 


Seedlings Diaper Rash Cream

We spent a week in the hospital with five of those days in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) after Macy was born (once we have her whole birth story blog post written you will be able to read more about her stay and what happened). The nurses in the NICU used petroleum jelly on all of the babies’ bums. What we hadn’t anticipated was our baby being born sick and also that we wouldn’t be coming home right away. Macy’s diaper rash cream we had very carefully picked out to make sure we avoided using any  toxins on her tiny vagina and bum was sitting on her change table at home in her nursery. Since there was no way we were leaving her side, we had to go without it and it really was a mistake.

Don’t be like us. Do not forgot to bring your carefully selected Seedlings Diaper Rash Cream with you in your hospital bag! You can find out more about it by clicking here.

Fast forward and Macy’s home living her best baby life now for weeks. While it hasn’t been anything crazy, after all she is only 6 weeks old now, Macy has had a few red spots on her bum. I barely put a tiny bit on my finger and dab her bottom – and before the spot can become a rash, it’s gone. Fast forward another couple of weeks now and Macy has had one diaper rash that her Seedlings Diaper Rash Cream cleared up overnight. It’s efficacy is important to us as mamas and consumers – but what’s especially important to me for my newborn is that I trust the plant based and clean ingredients list that makes up what I’m putting onto her most sensitive parts of her body. There are no hidden umbrella terms, like “fragrance”, what you see is what you get with this product and that’s why we have chosen this entire line only for our baby. And you can, too.

Seedlings Diaper Rash Cream, to share a few important points, is:

  • Dermatologist tested and hypoallergenic
  • Vegetarian friendly
  • Formulated without lanolin, parabens, phthalates, petrochemicals, synthetic preservatives, synthetic fragrances, or synthetic colorants

Bonus, we have been using a single tube since she was born and ten weeks later we still have plenty left!

Set up your free account and buy your Seedlings Diaper Rash Cream, or any of the other awesome Seedlings Baby products at 24% off head over to our team page.

Haakaa

A dear friend of ours came to visit us while I was still pregnant with Macy and her little one was about 3 months old at the time. Being the breastfeeding friendly home we are, she very openly fed her babe and showed us, eager-beaver-parents-to-be, all about this incredible invention called the Haakaa! Basically, you attach a 100% silicone cup to the boob you aren’t currently breastfeeding with while your baby nurses on the other. You squeeze the middle of the Haakaa as you press it over your nipple and allow the suction to slowly pull milk from you while your baby feeds away.

Having a supply of breastmilk on hand for daddy bonding time or for a lunch date out with friends or after a few glasses of wine – that’s a priceless thing. The Haakaa makes it simple and you avoid completely drenching that breastpad in your bra. Bonus!

I bought my Haakaa from well.ca here.

 

Prince Lionheart wipes warmer

I remember the first time I saw a wipe warmer and thought, “this is genius! Why wouldn’t I want to wipe by baby’s bum with a warm wipe instead of shocking her with a freezing cold one?”

Have you ever freshened up with a cold wipe? Armpit? Or even just your face? It sucks! Imagine being a brand new infant fresh from the womb without ever having even been touched before and now you’re being wiped with something so uncomfortably cold? That was a no brainer for us, we bought the Prince Lionheart wipes warmer immediately.

Now that Macy is here her change table is one of her favourite places. She has so much fun, kicks her feet like crazy. As soon as we lay her down she coos and laughs at he daddy and I. Sometimes this can be a be a place where babies are upset and we think this could be one of the reasons Macy associates her diaper change time as a happy time. We have only ever used wipes we’ve put in her wipes warmer and she’s been exactly as we’d hoped. Comfortable.

You can find a Prince Lionheart Wipes Warmer almost anywhere, head over to their website for more information! Their slogan aligns so perfectly with our mission for our newborn and yours, “Cold isn’t comfy”. We want our newborns to be as comfortable and happy as possible, and this is a product these two parents believe help to make their teensy lives just a little bit easier. I bet that’s something you can agree you want for your little, too.

 

Feather the Owl Diffuser, Nightlight & Noise Machine

When we were on the market for a noise machine we didn’t really know where to look – there are so many and none of them had more than one function or feature, it seemed. A lot of the toys looked tacky and we didn’t really want that for our daughter’s bedroom, either. We didn’t want it to look like a “baby’s” room. You know? We wanted furniture, blankets and decor to all have a little more longevity so she could enjoy her room for years down the line. We were also on the market for a night light that wasn’t too bright and a humidifier/cool mist diffuser. Voila, we are in Utah at the Young Living International Grand Convention last year and what do they release as a part of their brand new product line but the perfect combination of all three. Not tacky, not overly ‘baby’ and everything we wanted for less than we could have imagined spending on such a handy and very cute device. Feather the Owl diffuser also comes with Young Living’s Lavender essential oil, which is Health Canada Approved as a Natural Health Product.

Young Living’s Lavender essential oil in Aromatherpy can be used topically:

  • to help relieve joint or muscle pain associated with sprains, strains & rheumatoid arthritis
  • or inhaled can act as a nervine and calmative which enhances relaxation
  • or inhaled to reduce the symptoms of cold & cough
  • when experiencing digestive discomfort can act as a carminative and antispasmodic
  • to help relieve headache

There isn’t a better priced sound machine out there with all of the features this one has! Macy will use her Feather The Owl diffuser for many years, too!

Feather The Owl’s little claws turn on the diffuser with just a tiny tap of your child’s finger and also change the colour of its belly from white to red, green, orange, yellow, blue, purple and pink before finally turning the light off completely. This feature is just enough light to function perfectly as a child’s night light for their room. You simply tap the middle claw on either owl foot, the right for colour preference and the left to turn on (and off) the diffuser portion.

That’s only two of the three most amazing features!

The noise machine portion, which makes the third and final feature, has two buttons at the back of the owl, one to turn on the noise machine function and also rotate through the sounds and one beautifully melodic songs and a second button to increase the volume.

Again, you can not beat the price of this all in one adorable kid’s diffuser, nightlight and noise machine PLUS it comes with a free bottle of lavender essential oil – you can not go wrong!

Check out the rest of the details about Feather The Owl Diffuser on our team page. Purchasing one of your own at a 24% discount is super easy and accounts, just like setting one up with amazon, are free and super simple. We couldn’t recommend a product without using it first and we’re so impressed Colin wants to purchase a second one so we can keep the one we already have going in our bedroom once Macy moves into her crib in her own room. Ha!


Cuddly Wrap

Hashtag #babywearing is the best! I have to admit, both Colin and I took to baby wearing a bit later than I thought we would. Maybe we were nervous? Macy still hates her actual carriers (Tula and Baby Bjorn) but mostly because she is a tiny girl and just doesn’t fit into them yet. However, her Cuddly Wrap is a stretchy wrap you tie snug around your body in different ways depending on how you want to carry your baby. Well, ours was gifted to us and meant for the colder months so it’s a nice and thicker fabric. Macy might have been just over a month old when I first tried baby wearing and while she fought it for a few minutes, Macy quickly fell asleep and I realized how much more efficient I could be with my nap hours in the day.

That being said, we were given a kangaroo baby wearing contraption during our NICU stay so Macy and I could sleep together in the recliner in our tiny (and shared) suite. It was the only way our nurses felt comfortable with Macy sleeping in my arms while I also slept – and I so appreciated it. Macy loved it then but we both outgrew it quickly. She didn’t love being as confined as the kangaroo made her feel so the Cuddly Wrap really did give us a little more wiggle room for her and I both to be comfortable.


Hevea Pacifier

It’s been many years Colin and I have put into researching the products we have in our homes. When we found out we were pregnant with Macy and having a pacifier for her I have to admit, I was really intimidated. How could anything on the market be safe enough for our child to quite literally have in her mouth for hours a day? Plastic was everywhere. Then we stumbled across Hevea and not only do they have amazing pacifiers but also teethers and toys. The natural rubber comes from a tree species called Hevea brasiliensis – how cool is that?!

Macy loves her pacifier and it came as such a relief to all three of us when she found it very comforting during her poor NICU stay and many hundreds of IV and needle pokes. These poor mama and daddy hearts couldn’t hardly get through those days but knowing she could rest just a little better with her Hevea pacifier made us feel just a little better. All these weeks later, she still finds great comfort in her paci.


Seedlings Baby Wash and Shampoo

At the end of the day if a product line is owned by a company that produces chemical laden products I can not trust their brand to be safe for my baby. The ever popular baby brands claim all sorts of things and we are quick to trust them at their word because our parents used the same brand and brand recognition is what keeps these companies alive. Except mamas and daddies are really starting to wake up to the honest truth. Not everything you see on your grocers shelves are safe for you.

What you put on your body is absorbed into your skin and bloodstream to be processed by your cells in the same way the food you put in your mouth is. When your body doesn’t recognize synthetic or dangerous chemicals, it doesn’t know what to do so it stores them in weird places. Traces get left behind in your body’s attempt to keep you safe but consistent exposure and accumulation of those chemicals cause harm to our bodies. There are only so many weird places to hide things before it makes you sick.

That main brand we think of when it comes to gentle baby washes is owned by companies that manufacture known carcinogenic chemical laden and harsh cleaners. That brand’s baby wash contains some pretty yucky stuff and in fact, their baby powder was just recalled for being very dangerous to babies. That is enough for me to skip right past the brand altogether, and to hope you will, too.

It’s time to move on, parents. We are able to make smarter decisions now because we know better. We didn’t know better before but now we can make sure our babies are not being exposed to unnecessary ingredients that can make them sick. We don’t have to use those harsh chemicals.

In our home we trust Seedlings Baby products because they are vegetarian, synthetic free, toxin free and oh so gentle. Our newborn has been using this brand since she was born and there won’t be another line in her rub a dub tub or her bloodstream.

Check it out here and if you have questions, you’re welcome to email us any time!


Baby bathtub

Ok, when we first became pregnant any time I saw a baby whale I just melted. I think we both thought we were having a little boy and little boy décor is hard. (Choosing baby boy names is also insanely hard!) Instead of the nursery, I took up baby whales for items in the bathroom (with the exception of the adorable baby whale night light and stuffed animal gifts from a few great friends!). We have the cutest wash cloths and then, you guessed it, Facebook Marketplace popped up with an ad just down the street from where we live in West Kelowna, BC. Our baby’s whale tub cost us a whopping $5 and she absolutely loves it! There’s a small partition in the middle that helps to keep her sitting semi upright and a little cushion for a headrest. Again – reuse and recycle. Once Macy grows out of it, likely in the next few weeks, we’ll do exactly the same.

We actually had a few friends tell us not to bother with a tub because they grow out of them so quickly but for $5 we really couldn’t go wrong. Now that Macy is 10 weeks old we have to say, even at $25 it would have been a wise investment. It was important to us that our babe love being in the water and having a baby bathtub has helped us to show Macy how fun bath time can be! She also really loves that this is her special time with daddy (and sometimes mama comes to play, too!).


Breast Friend Pillow

Preferences may vary depending on the person and circumstances around your birth. It really didn’t ever occur to me that we would need to have a c section which actually made me regret buying this pillow in the beginning. I couldn’t put any pressure on my belly at all even when Macy was tiny and just born. It wasn’t until more than a month postpartum that I was able to try using the Breast Friend pillow with her for the first time and it made such a difference. I immediately felt terrible for having to try and find comfortable ways for her to lay down while I attempted to get her close enough to me. Breastfeeding is a challenge!

One of Colin’s friends reached out to him when we were first pregnant and said something that truly hit home when he said it and again when Macy was first born. He said, “breastfeeding is like two people learning how to ride a bicycle at the same time”. Neither of us knew what we were doing or how to help the other one out. When your baby is so tiny, you’ve had major surgery and you end up in the NICU (more on our full birth story coming soon) it’s even more stressful because nurses are on you 24/7 to watch you feed, show you better techniques, count your ounces, weigh your baby’s diaper, poke your baby’s heel for blood samples to test sugar levels and I remember all I wanted to do was cry because I didn’t know how to hold my daughter right with all of these wires and IV’s attached to her.

The first time I felt calm feeding her was that very first time this pillow didn’t hurt me. I can’t even remember if she was actually hungry and cuing for food, I just remember trying the pillow and it being comfortable so I picked Macy up and laid her down on it. She latched immediately and her body felt loose and cozy. Different. I felt relieved.

And you know what? This was another one of those Facebook Marketplace finds! I think I spent $10 or $15 recycling it from another mama who wasn’t using hers anymore.

 

Keeping Your Newborn Comfortable

It is challenging as you are transitioning from prenatal to postpartum. Mamas and daddies, it’s ok to not be ok, but if we can help it you won’t be completely unprepared! Learning the cues from your darling, sweet baby just for feeds, changes, snuggles and sleep is enough for new parents, so hopefully by creating this blog and sharing some of our huge wins with our own darling, sweet baby you feel supported and better prepared. Thank you for reading all the way through and if we’ve offered advice you really appreciate, we’d love to know. Is there something not on our list you think we should know about? Send us an email! Or maybe you just love being a parent and you need to tell us all about it? Ya, fire that off to us, too!

 

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