Survival Mode

Two days ago we were out running around in our chucks (because all married couples wear the same shoes, right?) and Tonia was wearing flood pants. It was practically summer and we were taking full advantage of soaking up as much of the warm air as possible. Upon arriving home, unpacking our few groceries and getting back to the swing of things at our desks, we realize it’s snowing.

What in the entire world is going on with this weather?

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It’s hard not to be just done with it by now. It has snowed here in Kelowna pretty much non-stop all winter long and we’re just dumbfounded by it. It’s gloomy, un-sunshiney and we’re all tired of feeling dumpy. You, me, the cashier at the grocery store. All of us.

So instead of wallow in our own self-pity, eat six hundred mountains of potato chips and devour another bowl full of seeds, nuts and chocolate chips trying to fill the void in our hearts, we’d like to share a few healthier tips with you to help keep us all in tip top shape. At least until Mother Nature gets her shit together.

  1. Straight up diffuse some happiness that not only smells like spring but also actually works to uplift your mood (and ultimately your productivity). One of our favourite essential oils to help shake the dumpy moods we get in when the doom and gloom of another snowy day takes hold is Citrus Fresh. Doesn’t it even just sound amazing? That’s because it is. Citrus Fresh is an essential oil blend of a bunch of delicious, cold pressed citrus fruit rinds and to pack a punch, a powerful and gorgeous addition of Spearmint. You might not jump up and click your heels in immediate joy, but you’ll definitely be excusing yourself from the pity party.
  2. Read a kick ass, motivating book. Don’t have one? Go get Jen Sincero’s You Are A Badass. It’s the kind of book you’ll continuously pick up, re-read and recommend. That’s a promise. Even if it’s just a page or a chapter, Jen Sincero’s wit and way with words will help to snap you out of being in your head in a hurry.
  3. Joy. Not the emotion, but another of our favourite essential oils. This blend is one that Colin loves, especially. That man loves his floral scents and so we actually make a linen spray with the essential oil blend of Joy and spray our bed sheets, couches, and clothes fresh out of the laundry. It’s all in the name. For all of your essential oil needs, we got you covered. We can talk to you all day about EO’s.
  4. Do a few sun salutations on your mat – or even a couple of cat cows to stretch your spine all the way through your core down to your navel. That stretch wakes both of us up and eases tension, grounds you and brings you right back to the here and now.
  5. Take a bath with your favourite bath bomb! You can buy our favourite locally made (in Kelowna) bath bombs here (they ship!) or make your own! Ask me for my awesome recipe.
  6. Play some really, really fun, funky music and listen to your body when it’s time to just relax and take a break. Sit back, sing along, dance. Cry. Whatever. But do it to some really, really, fun, funky music. Also this song. Ok one more.

These are just some of the ways we engage in being mindful about our moods everyday. Who’dda thunk essential oils were for more than just making a room smell amazing, right? Plenty more, in fact. Ask us about our essential oils, why we choose to use them and how they can help you out of your wintery blues, and onwards. Looking for more yummy yoga poses to help awaken your body? Feel free to ask anytime! Some of Tonia’s favourite Yogis are Kathryn Budig and Rachel Brathen.

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What are some of the ways you explore when you really need a pick-me-up? All weekend long we’re going to post our favourite winter-gloom-and-doom busters on our Instagram feed, tag us in yours too! Follow us on IG here.

With Purpose,

Tonia & Colin

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It’s Complicated

When you’re navigating the online world looking for answers it’s probably more often than not that you’ll come across opinions. It’s what social media is made of, in fact, it’s what all media is made of. Whose opinion can you trust?

When we first started learning about the food industry and what terms like Certified Organic or Non-GMO meant, we were overwhelmed. It takes a lot of effort and dedication to make big changes to your life, impacting your overall health (body and mind). This commitment to better health and better understanding of where our food was sourced and what it was actually made, from became, what is now, a lifelong journey for just overall better-ness.

Let’s share how we went from the refining of our food to how we cleaned up every cupboard in our home and why. Colin was blaming his food intake for a common ailment for a long time but the culprit was much more complicated than that!

After we began substituting things like refined sugars for raw, unpasteurized honey it became apparent that this was the beginning of a landslide. Here’s what things looked like in the very beginning.

What we used to eat –> what we substituted it for

  • Refined Sugar –> Raw, unpasteurized honey
  • Butter/Margarine –> Organic Coconut Oil
  • Store bought bread –> Bought a bread maker
  • Meat in Sauces (spaghetti) –> Dried beans or Eggplant
  • Grilled Steak –> Grilled Portobello Mushrooms

These types of changes happened one grocery trip at a time after researching how to keep up with all of the nutrients, vitamins and minerals we’d need to be cooking with in order to maintain healthy, optimally functioning bodies. Whole foods. Hot lemon water. Better quality produce. Then we added nuts, seeds and all that jazz to our diet too and we still sprinkle hemp hearts and flax seeds into our spaghetti sauce.

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Once we got the hang of our new diet and started to feel amazing, Colin realized he was still suffering from headaches almost daily, which he had attributed to poor hydration or not enough nutrients in his diet. He went for blood tests to make sure we were feeding his body right – which was so amazing! When he went for this blood test we were fairly new to the vegetarian world (under a year) and were all self-educated. His results were amazing in all areas, which meant his body was receiving more than enough of everything he needed.

Then why the headaches?

When people ask us why we chose to ‘sell’ essential oils or why we joined a Network Marketing company, it was very easy for us to answer. They (the oils and the company we chose to align ourselves with) were a solution for us for so many things. One thing we really loved was that they had the plant based cleaner (one, ONE single cleaner for every surface in our home instead of a cupboard full of poisonous and toxic products each for a single purpose in which we needed to wear a mask and gloves to use), a completely natural toothpaste that doesn’t taste like cardboard or have the consistency of jello. Yuck. They were a solution to our need for natural remedies with minimal ingredients. They were our answer for almost everything we were looking for. We’d used essential oils for years and wanted a better quality brand. It was amazing that the one we found also offered so many other natural options.

Why were we looking?

Looking and disecting product labels for so long when it came to the food we were purchasing had us basically checking labels for everything now. We were cleaning with “green” products that actually weren’t green at all, we had just trusted that because the product had the word “Green” or “Organic” in the company’s name that meant as a consumer, I should be able to trust that the ingredients were in fact Green or Organic. Wrong. Our hearts sank, because, if manufacturers were able to be so misleading with their labels, what else were we oblivious to?

We threw out almost everything! This was not going to be as slow a process like it had been with substituting food over time. Nope. This was going to be now. Immediate. Everything. Must. Go.

And it did.

The toilet bowl cleaner (IS BRIGHT BLUE!! Why?!), laundry detergent (also bright blue?!), candles, glass and window cleaner, hair spray, make-up, toothpaste (bright blue, are you sensing a theme?) and so on.

We didn’t feel safe. We felt lied to. The products on the shelf for me and you to purchase so easily based on what catches our eye, or worse, what attracts our sense of smell; those are all things that are carefully determined by a team of executives who formulate the product itself or design the product’s label. What’s inside, a lot of the time, is harmful to our health and unless we’re educated on that subject and do our own digging – none of us – will ever know.

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A lot of people ask us why we use essential oils, why we joined a Network Marketing company and why we’ve chosen this to be our career in business. When we eliminating all of this crap from our homes and started being conscious of what we were using, diffusing and cleaning with, Colin stopped getting headaches. When we threw out the candles and traded them for a diffuser. When we made our own deodorant and threw out the colognes. When we brushed our teeth with plant based ingredients. That’s when his headaches completely stopped.

If we don’t share all of this information with you, who will?

With Purpose,

Tonia & Colin

 

 

Quality Time

We stay at Tonia’s best friend’s house while we are in Calgary, we always do. However, this time around things felt different. We’ve spent so much time working that it wouldn’t be unusual for us to look at the clock and it be 9:45pm! Now that we’re staying where another couple comes home from work at a regular hour, it forces us to close up shop around dinner time so we can enjoy our time together with them. Something so small has really brought so much love and awareness to the importance of quality time.

Learning to balance your personal and professional time is a tricky thing when you’re so passionate about the lifestyle you’re building.

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Quality time has even changed its meaning. Sometimes you just wake up on the wrong side of the bed and you’re scratching your head trying to figure out what’s wrong. You assess how you’re feeling, asking yourself if you’re tired or maybe coming down with something. Often, we find, it’s that we haven’t spent quality time somewhere in our lives. Something is out of balance.

The four areas we always find we need to maintain balance in:

  1. Our marriage
  2. Our alone time
  3. Our health
  4. Our Social Life

Quality Time For Our Marriage

This means everything from time away from our business, relaxing together and doing all of the things we all know to do for our marriages. Spending time in love. Sometimes this takes a back seat to the other three things, though that’s rare for us. How do we know we’re out of balance? We annoy each other, we’re snippy or we just aren’t communicating properly.

Quality Alone Time

This one is big in our house. We both have hobbies and areas in our lives that we need to pay attention to in order to feel balanced individually before we’re capable of being there for others. We all know that, but it’s not uncommon to fall out of sync with ourselves. Colin plays guitar and has since he was 14. This is something he needs to do in his life to recharge. Tonia loves to read and study (wine, oils, business). If we don’t put effort into this time for ourselves, we might not be at our best.

Quality Health & Wellness Time

Oh boy, this one tugs at us. This include fitness, holistic medicine which we feel includes things like seeing a natural medicine practitioner but also spending time with our yoga and meditation practices. This includes listening to our bodies and feeding it right. Using our essential oils with purpose instead of just popping something in to our diffuser for fun. When one of these parts of our wellness routines is out of whack, our bodies and our minds seem to shout the loudest at us. We tend to spend more time here, more focus, more effort than anywhere else. We could always spend more.

Quality Social Time

We can be introverts. We like to be at home. We love to host, cook and entertain people, though! But we’re home bodies and sometimes we forget that it might have been ten days since we saw someone else’s face besides each other’s and the lady at the grocery store. It’s something we need to commit more time to in order to balance out the other areas of our lives. We need to spend more time out together with our friends, but we also need time out separately with our friends. Balance.

As long as we continue to do everything we do…  Everything With A {Purpose}, we will find it easier to maintain balance in life, marriage, business, health and relationships. When you’re feeling off, what are the ways you can measure where your balance might be out of sync?

With Purpose,

Tonia & Colin

 

A Whole Foods Journey

After our last blog about the beginning of our rabbit hole journey with food we had quite a few friends reach out to us, which was fantastic! We both really love sharing about our journey and have been studying it (and listening to our bodies) for over five years now, so we feel pretty comfortable literally spilling our guts.

This morning we were reminded of a post-grocery store ritual we had shared with one of our friends and thought we’d like to share it here with all of you as well. First we’ll talk about a few things and then at the end of the blog we’ll share a very easy (and fun) way to stay on track!

When we first began down this journey we were learning how to make so many of our meals from scratch. Let’s face it, it’s super easy to go to the store and buy the pre-made, processed foods like pasta sauces, dips like hummus for snacks, frozen pizzas, etc. Most of the inner aisles of the grocery store are just that; processed foods.

Basically we had to learn a new language; whole foods. We had no idea what that really meant. Processed foods; did we even really know what that means? Definitely not, but once we learned more about the term it changed our lives.

Processed Foods

Definition: “The definition of what constitutes a processed food can vary slightly, but it usually refers to foods that are packaged in boxes, cans or bags. … In addition to going through many complex processing steps, processed foods often contain additives, artificial flavorings and other chemical ingredients.”

(Source – http://healthyeating.sfgate.com/processed-food-definition-2074.html)

Examples: Milk, canned vegetables, ready made sauces, dips, soft drinks, cereal.

Are all processed foods created equal?

Unfortunately not. Hence, the rabbit hole. Learning to recognize how manufacturers label foods is one of the most important parts to figuring out this maze of confusion, but that is also a tricky feat.

Look for logos on your food labels like:

Whole Foods

Definition: “…a natural food and especially an unprocessed one (as a vegetable or fruit)”

(Source – https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/whole%20food)

Examples: Nuts, seeds, vegetables, fruits, quinoa, rice, etc

While we just wanted to give you all a quick run down of these two very different ideas, we really wanted to make note of something important about the definition for processed foods. It clearly states that processed foods often contains additives and even chemicals. This means that chemicals are actually added to your foods that you and your family are consuming. What does that mean?

Additives can be anything from artificial (synthetically made) sweeteners, MSG’s, Trans fats – to see more on the subject click the link for a list of 10 additives to stay away from and why. These are not the types of chemicals we want to have in our bodies and so that meant we had to do something different. We had to commit to making some very big changes around our home.

It meant we’d have to start cooking from scratch.

Tips & Tricks When Just Starting Out

  • Use your search engine and search for lists of whole foods
  • Only shop from the perimeters of your local grocery store
  • Avoid the centre aisles where foods are packaged in cans and bags
  • Substitute things like whole grain pasta for brown rice pasta
  • Start using raw, unpasteurized honey instead of granulated or refined sugar
  • Buy coconut milk for sauces and soups instead of using heavy creams
  • Make your own dough for pizza (holy cow you guys, we have the easiest, nobody can screw this up, vegan pizza dough recipe so there’s another quick blog we’ll put together soon!)

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Now let’s get to the fun stuff. We want to share a tip with you that has saved us so much time, money and from having us stop for fast food (or just bad food choices in general), especially before we were both working from home.

Go grocery shopping on a day where you have no set plans. Dedicate your entire afternoon. Buy yourselves a bottle of wine. Why?

Every Sunday we would go to our local health food store and stock up on all of our flours (buckwheat, whole wheat, brown rice), nuts, seeds, almond milk, coffee beans (Kicking Horse, we love you!), spices, veggies, fruits, dried beans, peas (our favourites are split and black eyed, especially for soups), quinoa, rice, chick peas, substitutes like Veganaise instead of Mayo, etc.

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We would pack up the car and head home to quite literally spend the rest of the day prepping for the entire week. We washed and prepared all of the vegetables into containers and popped them into the fridge. We’d meal prep, too, but it was also just easiest to chop up a whole zucchini and then when we wanted to add zucchini to a meal, open up the container and throw in a handful. Imagine if you did this with your veggies in a way so it was easy to grab a few carrot sticks, zucchini and cauliflower heads with the hummus you prepared yesterday, etc.

It doesn’t sound like much, but we really came to enjoy these afternoons. We’d pop on some music, crack open a chilled bottle of white and prep all day. OH! And we’d even save all of the vegetable trimmings and ends and make a big pot of vegetable stock to use throughout the week as well. It was kind of like a date day – all while making it easier to live healthier, happier, whole food loving lives.

With Purpose,

Tonia & Colin

 

The Oil Of Mother Earth

This week I was personally so excited to get to Calgary and actually pick up my essential oils order right from the Will Call office, rather than having to wait sometimes up to a week to have our package shipped. Patience is not my strongest suit, that’s for sure.

For the past few weeks I have been going to see my friend who is a Registered Traditional Chinese Medicine Practitioner (RTCMP) for acupuncture and some herbal remedies for a few different reasons. She knows we love our essential oils and so we got into the conversation about which ones I should stay away from for the next little while and perhaps which ones I should focus on.

Myrrh essential oil, she explained, is nicknamed the “Oil Of Mother Earth”and that intrigued both Colin and myself enough to start digging and doing some research. Basically, this essential oil offers many benefits, especially for emotional support. Myrrh is steam distilled from the gum or resin of a tree and in Greek Mythology it is said that Myrrha, mother of Adonis, beds her father without his knowledge (and he becomes mortified to find out he has been lusting after his own daughter, as she is disguised while in his bed). After making this realization, Myrrha is so devastated and ashamed that she begs the goddesses to relieve her of her own  wrong-doings. They agree and turn her into a Myrrh tree. It is believed that the resin that drips like sap down the side of the tree when the bark is cut that those are the tears of Myrrha.

Pretty interesting story (you can read more here)!

The Mother Earth Connection

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Myrrh essential oil is said to reconnect your soul to that of mother earth while its nurturing energies helps to sooth emotions attached to abandonment or disruption of a relationship with a parent (usually a mother or the relationship with mother earth itself). Myrrh essential oil helps to support and heal this emotional barrier or blocker. It was an interesting theory to decide on Myrrh as one of the oils that I should spend some time with. Think of Myrrh as your grounding, calming, loving, nurturing safe place. SO, it was a happy time to finally be able to pop a few drops in combination with Vetiver into a glass roller bottle and filled it will jojoba oil. Now we’ll be able to spend some time really seeing how well these oils work for me.

If you think about grounding and rooting yourself, building on a healthy foundation, you might also think of balancing your chakras or how to support yourself by way of meditation or yoga as well. It’s so interesting to dive into our essential oils in relation to how they help to restore calmness in our bodies or bring a sense of grounding to our meditation practices. When we both started sharing our love for essential oils it was more about the idea of eliminating other harmful products from your home and now we just have such a more in depth, intimate relationship with them. We’re glad to share them in this space as well.

If you found any part of this blog pull at your desire to learn more about an experience we shared you can email us: tandcmcarthur@gmail.com. If you’re intrigued by essential oils and their amazing benefits, here’s a helpful blog about Myrrh essential oil!

With Purpose,

Tonia & Colin

 

 

 

 

Us And You

We’ve been away a while. With the best of intentions we both wanted to be able to contribute to our blog daily and as the Universe would have it, that might not always be completely feasible. Life is really exciting right now with plenty of changes both personally and professionally.

Everything With A {Purpose} has come to mean so much more than just the title of this blog series or a way in which to carry out our day to day life. Before writing our first entry we sat down to contemplate what it was we really wanted to share with you. What types of conversations we wanted to have, how we wanted to document our journey from here on out and that sort of thing. We were introduced to a few strategies through a business training we are a part of that really allowed us to tap into those ideas and they’ve been incredibly helpful. The idea is to write down your ten brand words and to be really thoughtful about what that means.

Creating Your Brand

Who Do We Want To Talk To?

It became apparent to us that even with a Lifestyle blog we wanted to be thoughtful about who we are talking to. If we’re writing our blogs with purpose, we’re ultimately talking to people just like, well, us. People who resonate with a lifestyle full of dreams and aspirations that were bigger than the average day to day. We want to connect with other people who are married, following their dreams and working really hard to make them come true.

How Are We Going To Talk To Like Minded People?

This has single-handedly been our biggest hurdle in life, in our business ventures as well as with this blog. In order to align ourselves with the exact right people, we have to be the exact right amount of vulnerable. Ouch. It’s kind of comparable to ripping off a bandaid to a wound that actually needed surgery and then 6 weeks worth of rest. Vulnerable? How the heck to we do that without talking about some ugly stuff nobody wants to be honest about? Oh, you just do it? Ok….

When You Let Your Guard Down, Your Opportunities Are Limitless

The lesson, so far, has been that everyone has their own stuff and that everyone is a little more like you than most of us care to admit. We’re all the same. So we shared some of ourselves a little bit at a time and do you know what happened? People like you said, “ME, TOO!”

We shared a little bit more and then that gave people permission to say “ME, TOO” some more. Then, miraculously, people began to share their own stories and we connected.

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Our Ten Words

  1. Witty
  2. Sincere
  3. Genuine
  4. Creative
  5. Clever
  6. Loyal
  7. Flexible
  8. Friendly
  9. Bold
  10. Spontaneous

These words represent who we are, who we want to always be and are important to the foundation of our life. Moving forward, we are excited to continue to make connections with you brilliant, brave and amazing people to help contribute to our story and us yours.

With Purpose,

Tonia & Colin

How To Manifest Abundance

Belief is a very interesting term. We’ve been doing a lot of reading together in the past year or so (we’ll refer you to some really good books at the bottom of the blog) and have taken some of the best advice that really resonated with us and put them into practice. Think about career, relationships, trips, money and health. Anything!

The Rules Of Manifesting Abundance

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When we travel we like to stay in really unique places and rent apartments or homes, if at all possible. We like to plan our travel using sites like VRBO, Airbnb as well as Flipkey. The reason we really like VRBO is that we can search for places we are looking to visit and actually save rental properties into a “Favourites” list and categorize those lists however we want. For instance, we really want to travel to Croatia, so we looked for places to rent in three different cities so far (Split, Dubrovnik and Hvar). We created a ‘Favourites List’ for each place. We can now go back to VRBO at any time in the future when we are ready to go back to book our rentals, which will now take just a few quick seconds.

What’s important about being able to save these searches is the act of manifesting the trip to begin with. It’s a similar practice with what we’re doing in terms of building our dream home as well as building a successful business. Napoleon Hill talks a lot about taking your dreams and putting them into practice by understanding that you are capable of having what you want. If you can dream it, there must be a way of making it happen.

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Plan

Get a Pinterest account if you don’t have one. We are on there all the time saving information from other lovers of travel. Follow our Travel: Croatia board there, too! YOU can easily find information others have shared about where to stay, eat, play and all other things tourist-ish about anywhere in the world. Of course, Pinterest is not limited to travel or dream homes. You can manifest an abundance of pretty much anything. With a Pinterest board, you are putting together places to eat, museums you’d like to see, hikes you’d like to take and quite literally planning your trip.

…the leading cause of sucking (staying broke, dating morons, uncontrollably crying in public because we hate our lives) is that we haven’t yet woken up to how truly powerful we are or to how massively abundant our Universe is – Jen Sincero

Take Action

Sitting down with your spouse on a Saturday night with a bottle of wine perusing through VRBO to a dreamy travel destination is going to set this trip in motion. You will have a changed and much bigger desire to make this trip happen, and if you’re spontaneous enough, you might even just book those flights. We’ve been there. Do it.

Belief can work in the same way for other aspects of your life as well. If you are thinking about buying a new car and all you do is research your new car, why you want it and how much it’s going to cost, you will also think about actually driving it. You’ll think about all of the reasons you need it.

Next, you’ll find yourself at the dealership test driving the car you will not be walking out of that store without buying. Why is that? You left behind your self doubt (and that shit’s heavy anyways, put it down) behind by focusing on what you needed. It was a dream that you optimistically, whether you were aware of it or not, put in motion.

So, How Do You Manifest Abundance?

You plan. You take action. You start believing that whatever you want to do can actually happen and any time you tell yourself you can’t have something, you’re putting up a make-believe barrier that doesn’t and never did exist. If you don’t believe us, buy these books and read them five times or until you’re cured. Whichever happens first. Welcome to the first day of awakening from what Jen Sincero refers to as the “BIG SNOOZE”.

With Purpose,

T&C

Tribe

Today is a day of reflection and being grateful. That is something we both talk about a lot these days, especially as we see progress in our business and with our amazing team. We’re grateful that our house is a complete mess and do you know what’s happened since we started acknowledging this mess together? We stopped letting it bother us. Who cares! The kitchen being pristine is not on our priority list, so what? The dog certainly doesn’t complain and so I think we’re good.

We sat up last night talking about priorities a little bit, which actually seems to be our favourite topic of conversation lately. What do other childfree married couples in their thirties talk about over a milk chocolate stout at 11:30PM on a Wednesday? Priorities, right?

Anyways, we were talking about how in our twenties we were both reckless, dysfunctional, wild, careless, selfish but how we had so many friends and all of that totally typical 20 year old stuff. Except, we both really wanted a very different life. We wanted to be stable, to have the marriage we now have (so, we’re totally winning in that department) and be able to stop feeling guilty when we have to say no to something we so badly want to do because, money. One of the things we want to make sure of is that everything we do this year and ongoing, is with a {purpose}, hence the name of this blog series. We started off 2017 with purpose as our word and so the idea is if we don’t say what we mean and mean what we say, we better not say it at all. Our 30’s look quite different from our previous decade of debauchery.

Now, our first priority is no secret. Our marriage comes first. Always has, always will. Last night we skyped with some old University buddies of Colin’s (they live on the other side of the country) and we were all talking about business strategies. The topic of branding came up and we got onto the discussion of conflict. One of Colin’s friends then asked us, “well, what do you guys do when you don’t agree about something to do with your business?” and we both tried to think of a time when we had to deal with this. We couldn’t.

That really got us thinking.

It took more than four years for us to have this relationship down pat. We screwed up a lot. We had a few pretty ugly arguments. We did some hurtful things. We now have an amazing marriage because we got our priorities straight, did a lot of work on ourselves and we communicate. A lot. Sometimes more than Colin wants to.

Priority #2 is our business.

If it took us four years to figure US out, our business isn’t going to miraculously be amazing either.  Well, it is kind of miraculous in a way. We’re in the second year of our business and only starting to really put it all together but it’s exciting, like really exciting. We have to put in just as much effort, time and dedication in as we do our marriage and then one day, all of our determination and care will pay off there, too.

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The difference is that we have other people pushing and dreaming along with us. We share a vision, purpose and drive that steers us all in the same direction. We get to meet and join forces with some incredible people that bring such a sense of community and enthusiasm to our lives. The vision is slowly turning into a reality and we’re trying to reflect everyday so we don’t miss anything. We are grateful for these times because one day we’re all going to look around and think, “remember when our houses were complete disasters?” and we’ll laugh. They’ll still probably be disasters but we’ll be busy living more of our lives in the dirty kitchens than behind our cluttered desks. (Well, maybe.)

This business is beginning to be a little more like a Tribe. It’s becoming the best of all worlds. We’re joined by people with our same vision, desires, dreams. We move forward together, with and for each other. And that is amazing. More of that.

With Purpose,

T&C

 

Connection

Today I sat on my mat for a while and was able to just be present. That does not usually happen for me. I’m busy, distracted, there are always things to do.

I plunked a single drop of Frankincense (carterii) at the top centre of my mat and a few drops of Frankincense (sacra) in my diffuser. These oils pull me down to the ground and also crack my emotions wide open. Today, though, they were the right combination of soothing and yummy.

Yoga and meditation have long since been a part of my life, although, I must admit, fleetingly at times. Since our move to the Okanagan ten months ago I think I can safely say my practice in both areas has been the least consistent since the first time I ever laid eyes on a yoga mat. There has been space created for other areas in my life like our marriage, growing our beautiful team and learning everything we could about continuing to grow and support our business. So when I did take a minute to sit on my mat in these last months, it usually wasn’t focused or quite as meaningful.

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Today, I felt compelled to shake off my mat and roll it out over the floor. I let the flow of my body just take me wherever felt good. Sun salutations, triangle pose, pigeon (of course, of course!), warrior 2, warrior 3, twisting in and out without even thinking. I kept my eyes closed almost the whole time and I just let the flow take me until I was in a seated position. I let my hands fall to my thighs and I crossed my shins over one another. Instantly I could feel the energy in the form of heat tingling through my hands to my thighs and both buzzed just slightly where they connected. Where there was contact.

It was so interesting to be in this moment. I was noticing connection in a time when there has been an emptiness or space I felt perhaps lacking this emotion to connectedness. It took me to write this blog for me to figure out what that lesson was, because there is always a lesson I take away from my meditation practice. Sometimes it comes to me right then and there, but sometimes it can take days. Today it took making lunch and a cup of chai tea after my playful, sensitive and freeing practice. The connection I have been lacking was from within me.

With Purpose,

T

Make A Wish

Let me ask you something.

Do you believe in magic?

We all do when we’re young like the first time we see a shooting star and someone whispers, ‘make a wish!”. You squeeze your eyes so tight as you think of the most amazing thing you could want in that very moment. You believe anything can happen, wishes do come true and you can have anything you want in the whole wide world.

What about now, do you believe in magic? When was it that we stopped wishing on stars and blowing the seeds off of the puffy, white dandelions? When were we introduced to real truths about how hard life can be? Who taught us how to put up the walls with just the perfect amount of space between wishful thinking and safe. All of those incredible years of building up those “yup, see there’s another reason to guard your heart and one more reason to believe that magic isn’t real” emotions and barriers. It’s here, while we’re building our wall that insecurities and negative thought are given the chance to become more prevalent than our beautiful, wishful, dream loving selves.

It took until about age 30 (ish) before the idea of negative narrative really made any sense. Reading all of those books about meditation (and actually having a very beloved meditation practice), motivation and self-development pointed in the same direction, slowly shaking that little person awake. That little child filled with dreams and wishes wasn’t naive, that child just wasn’t taught to be dedicated to their dreams. That’s the difference between time spent building a wall vs. building a future.

When was the last time a small child, wide-eyed with wonder, ever turned to you and said, “oh ya? Prove it!”…

You can make a wish and have it come true but you have to work for it. You have to do your research and break the mold. You have to be willing to take a step outside of the pack. You have to think for yourself. Scariest of all, you have to care not what others might think of you. The only thing within our control is ourselves and that is magic. We can be whoever we want to be.

Now, listen to the narrative of your life as you go about your day tomorrow. Open your eyes tomorrow morning and remind yourself that you’re going to truly listen today. Do you tell yourself that you can’t wear that shirt because you look *insert negative comment*? Or do you pick out an outfit that makes you feel proud and happy? This is the voice in your head that dictates what you tell yourself about your own self-worth. This voice has been trained to talk to you the way it does over the course of your life, ever since you were first told to make a wish on that shooting star. Every day from this day forward, work your way back to that little person with their eyes squeezed tight, wishing on a star because when you believe in magic you can do anything.

Do you know what happens when you believe in magic again?

You start to create a living. So close your eyes and make a wish.

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With Purpose,

T&C

 

Might As Well Jump

After discovering what we did about the food industry and making some big changes in our lives over the next few years, we also grew increasingly impatient with the lack of direction in our lives. You know that feeling when you just know that you want Brunello instead of the sale rack choice of the week. Until about two years ago our mindset was pretty typical of a lot of people around us. We had what we had, we weren’t happy about it but what could we do. Classic shrug your shoulders and live to see another day.

Sometimes people only halfway through their lives give up because their perspective is that it’s easier not to care anymore. We’ve seen both first hand in our families and people in our community… happening right now. We love these people, but we did not want this to be our story. We know what it’s like to go to a job everyday that you don’t like, or worse! We also know what it’s like to go to a job you do like but it’s not enough. People purchase lottery tickets in hopes of one day cashing in and buying that yacht or going on that dream vacation or really sticking it to their boss.

What about knowing that you want better and can have better but you go through the motions because the way out isn’t clear or is seemingly unattainable. It’s why most of us never do anything about it. OH, maybe next year, we might say. Or that seems too hard so instead we’ll drink a beer after work and watch the big game and get back at it again tomorrow, building someone else’s dream for them.

Why not you?

What is the one thing you tell yourself when you think about why you are where you are, assuming it’s not where you want to be? You’ve got it all! A happy marriage, a scruffy dog, a nice and reliable car, food on the table and a roof over your head. You are loyal, you work hard, long hours and have a pretty good life, so why are you not happy?

What is missing? Freedom? {Purpose}? What about community? 

Something had to give for us, too. We finally had spending money but a six day work week to thank for that. We paid for our wedding in cash, saving for only 10 months. We thought that would make us so happy but nothing was sustainable. We’d traded something we love (our freedom and time) for something that we thought was more important (money and comfort). We looked around and we didn’t belong anymore.

We recognized a few things:

  1. We had been making excuses for years about hating our jobs and doing nothing about it
  2. We didn’t live where we wanted to but stayed because it was easier and more comfortable than taking a leap of faith
  3. We had a lot of personal growth to work on in order to be the kinds of people we truly wanted to be

So we jumped.

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We bought in to a company with an opportunity to build a business on our terms. Six months later we moved to a place we’d talked about going when we retired. We stopped thinking that this life we actually wanted wasn’t for us, because who even made those boundaries for us? We stopped believing mediocrity was a lifestyle.

Are we nuts? Totally. Is it scary? You damn right it is! Are we millionaires? NO! Let me tell you what we had though, the minute we started….

Freedom. Time to spend together. {Purpose}. Days that begin and end like we want them to. No alarm clocks. No boss to ask for permission. Independence. People that want all of the same things we do. HEY! Are you still reading this? If you are, maybe it’s time you reached out to us and we’ll help you to do the same. We know you’re out there and we know how scary it is.  But, it’s worth it!

With Purpose,

T & C

 

Coffee Dates

When you see all of the diet fads going on, luckily all the time because Social Media doesn’t let us forget, are you like us?

Diets are silly. They’re a temporary solution to a longterm problem. They don’t work and people are disappointed with themselves or the diet, or both. What’s incredible is that so many people want to do better and that’s where the focus should be. We all want better quality foods for a better quality, more sustainable life. The bad news is a diet is not going to give us what we want because cake is happiness and starving is not. Right?

Think about all of the things we’ll miss and then binge eat when we’re done our ’21 day diet’. We’ll have a pity party about all of the weight we gained back and then do our 21 day starve ourselves diet all over again like a cycle of never ending doom. Isn’t the definition of insanity doing the same thing over again but expecting different results? What if we started thinking about diets as a lifestyle change on step at a time type basis.

Here’s what that might look like. Let’s take everyone’s favourite thing in the entire world before wine is the acceptable beverage of choice; coffee.

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It’s the reason we both get up in the morning and it was one of the best parts of our lifestyle change! We love our morning coffee. Tonia used to brew (gross, gross, gross brand coffee in huge container already ground, mass produced yuckiness) an entire pot to herself and drown it in those creamers that come in Irish Cream, hazelnut and many other chemical laden flavours. We had no idea! Making a simple switch, one thing at a time enabled us to still enjoy the things we loved while also making health conscious decisions. We did some research and found that freshly ground coffee was full of nutrients and pretty darn good for you so we bought organic, local coffee beans and used our Magic Bullet mini blender to grind up our coffee each morning.

Since refined sugars were the very first thing we kicked out of bed when we revamped and adopted our healthier eating lifestyle, organic and unpasteurized honey was our sweetener replacement. Wow! What were we ever using anything else for anyway? Top off our freshly ground coffee, brewed each morning in a french press (after finally throwing away the oldest of coffee pots), a dollop of natural honey and a splash of almond milk. No dairy. Slightly nutty. So delicious.

It’s one change at a time and habit setting that forms a lifestyle around making better choices. Now, we’re only talking about the incredible, enjoyable coffee beverage. Just think about the many other areas of our ‘diet’ that could survive minor tweaks and adjustments to up the quality of the things we are consuming. Refined sugar is linked to so many diseases that we’re not even going to get into here – but the point is that… We can still have our coffee and drink it, too.

With Purpose,

T&C