We want to be able to always say yes instead of having to say no.
The reality is we aren’t where we want to be yet. Cue the ever popular ‘whoever said money doesn’t buy you happiness’ didn’t consider the perspective of those who still must cave to the necessity of making enough to just get by. Do you hear the the little voices inside your head that say, “they’re right”? Or do you hear a voice screaming, “NO!”?
How heartbreaking is the thought of closing your eyes so you don’t see the beautiful things you want that are out of your reach? Should the lesson be to walk blind folded? Or should we strive to achieve greatness and reach further for longer?
We were nearing our breaking points when we first met and what’s worse than one person reaching their breaking point?
When you are forced to say no to something that you want because of an obligation to a job or some form of making money in order to live, or maybe even to survive, you are forced into making a sacrifice you didn’t choose. This is where the mindset of being unworthy of a better life has the best chance of taking hold of us. We’re vulnerable to our current situations. That’s when a choice presents itself but we’re often too busy licking our wounds to pay any notice.
After many years of pushing against resistance we realized, just before we were married, that many of the hard or challenging parts of our lives were met with us putting our foot down or digging our heels in. It was more important for us to have the final say than to swim around an obstacle while enjoying the ride downstream. This pinnacle moment changed our lives. We stopped wedding planning, we canceled everything, we re-planned an entire wedding that had taken us nearly 1.5 years to put together and everything fell into place within 5 days. We began to think about other areas in our lives that we’d pushed against something too hard and let it all go.
We made huge changes. We got married (and it was the best two wedding days of our lives!) and then immediately afterwards we started a business together. Six months later we stopped making excuses and finally moved to a place we’d dreamed of moving to when we retired. We stopped swimming (desperately) upstream. We stopped having to say no and we started getting used to saying yes. The water was rising so we got ourselves a boat.
Even in business as we grow there are far more things we have to say no to than the ultimate alternative; the end goal of yes’. What drives and motivates us is grand and will allow us the privilege of never having to say no to something we want ever again. For now we’re going to remember that we’re not saying no, we’re saying soon.
T & C
Many instances in the last few months, I’ve found myself repeating something very close to my heart. Conversation happens around the idea of growing older where sometimes all kinds of perspectives are laid out on the table like a deck of cards. I’ve been listening to many and I hear a lot of the same thing. It’s scary, it’s full of pain and regret, or worse; growing older is something some people just downright don’t want at all.
The idea behind “Everything With A Purpose” is building a lifestyle that is sincere, creative, witty, loyal, clever, flexible, bold, friendly, spontaneous and genuine. If we keep these things in mind, rather than feel as though the grey hairs on our heads or the wrinkles on our faces are signs of a forgotten youth, they’ll become welcome reminders of privilege.
We are lucky to have lived sad moments. If we avoid sadness, we subsequently avoid raw emotions and an opportunity to grow as they help to shape and mold us into an improved version. It’s a chance to become. There are sad moments or difficult moments that we all endure that can be so heart shattering we can’t imagine how we’re ever going to survive and then something miraculous happens. We do.
The grey hairs and wrinkles are not what defines us but shares a story of time already spent and still to come. I intentionally keep my hair cut short, not only because I like it much better but also because it forces me to actually DO my hair. I’m lazy by nature when it comes to my appearance so if my hair is long enough to throw up in what Colin affectionately calls my ‘pineapple’, that’s my look until the next time I get around to having my hair styled again. I spend a good half an hour curling my short locks and notice new and plentiful greys every day, which always make me smile. I am privileged to be here with my grey hairs and I love them.
It is a privilege to grow old that not everyone is afforded. It is with this lesson that our lifestyle and our business revolves around. Our dreams are huge. They’re daring. We want to build an amazing business with the purpose of inspiring others to be able to do the same. We want to spend the rest of our time saying yes more than we have to say no. Everything With A Purpose means we set goals and intentions with plans of execution that we continuously say YES to every single day. It means we don’t say no to ourselves when we feel scared. It means we don’t give up when the going gets tough. It means we say yes.